We will assume QM knows what she needs in a T and her assessment of her own situation is valid.
Unless you've been a gay person exposed to a really homophobic society I think it's presumptuous to judge.

I'm lucky enough to live in the US but grew up.in a very conservative church movement. My pastor counseled me that it would be better for me to KILL MYSELF than be gay.

I'm pretty sure no one says that about being adopted.

I tried all kinds of repartive/conversion methods before I accepted myself . it really wrecked a whole decade of my life and damaged my development as a young adult.

I see where QM is coming from. I don't know if you can really "demand" your T do something. But the viewpoints on homosexuality she is talking about are actively destructive and QM deserves a T who is not destructive towards her.