Yes I can. In fact if I wanted to keep someone around, I would sleep with them...that was enough for them to stick around for awhile. Right now my "partner" of 16 years and I have not touched each other in 2 years. We hate each other...
..now I realize it was a big mistake and sex was the only thing that kept us together. Best of luck to you and your h. I hope you guys can work things out.