I was not looking for anyone right now but was messaged on OKCupid by a seemingly nice guy who is working for his PhD, has his dissertation all worked out but has yet to be officially given the title.

The hitch?

He is in a toxic marriage and told me that his physically, emotionally and psychotically abusive "wife" would literally try and kill him if he tried to divorce her as he still shares the same living space as her. He assured me he would most certainly divorce her when he and his two cats had a place to go.

Now, me being the realistic yet sympathetic person I am, am wondering if it's any semblance of a good idea to get to know him. He seems nice and the bleeding heart part of me wants to give him a chance but I know guys can be manipulative and use that angle to take advantage of me. I also realize he could just be looking for someone to use to escape his abusive marrage and once out of it, he could just leave them. I am not trying to be in denial of anything.

He also lives a few states away from me in Massachusetts, around the Boston area.

I guess what I am asking is for an outsider's opinion on whether getting to know this guy is anywhere near a good idea.