Hi Hitherhope,
Welcome to psych central! I have found this a great place for support and learning.
I'm sorry you're in such a difficult situation. It must be so hard for the whole family.
I have lived with depression the majority of my life, and I can relate to feeling that I want nothing out of routine to happen, but I agree that the children's needs are very important, often more important.
I don't know, but you might find this forum helpful....
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People here have helped me through some dark times and I hope you get as much encouragement from this community as I have. Best of luck.