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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I forgave my T but I didn't forget it. I felt like she shamed me in that session, and made me feel bad that my H couldn't give me what I wanted. But she continued being exceptional in other ways so I didn't see any reason to leave her. She never took away hugs, and we hug at the end of every single session. She always let me talk about my feelings even if she disagreed.
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I would feel ashamed too Rainbow as would most of us. I would feel shamed for having feelings towards her even though they were not you're feelings in this case. I would also feel ashamed on how she approached and addressed these feelings and put the blame on you further by saying she was meeting needs that your husband couldn't meet. That is a wild accusation. I would not be happy at all with that. There could have been a discussion about feelings around holding hands and what that means to you both before it was introduced. Then you're t would have known that it was a yearning from a very young part to be close to her.