I would feel ashamed too Rainbow as would most of us. I would feel shamed for having feelings towards her even though they were not you're feelings in this case. I would also feel ashamed on how she approached and addressed these feelings and put the blame on you further by saying she was meeting needs that your husband couldn't meet. That is a wild accusation. I would not be happy at all with that. There could have been a discussion about feelings around holding hands and what that means to you both before it was introduced. Then you're t would have known that it was a yearning from a very young part to be close to her.