(((Here today))) i used to have this feeling. Its like, why dont you just TELL ME?!!! What changed it for me, was probably having my t respect my feelings over a long period of time. Then when i went back to my family, i could tell the difference between being respected and being jerked around. In between those two, was my old way of being, which was being jerked around by people who told me i needed to earn their respect. That is b.s.!