Lol....I difnt have sex with my H the last 12 years I lived with him. I wished he wanted a divorce because I sure did. Financially trapped because the house value was upside down & he refused to work with me on making a divorce work.

Found out after I finally was leaving him that he didnt want a divorce because "it would make him look like a failure" (i now understand why his brain worked in such strange ways but didnt then....couldnt see the forest for the trees)

Anyway, I left & 9 years later Im the one filing & paying for the divorce to make sure that somewhere along the line he doesnt do something really financially stupid & mske me loose my paid for farm.

He was hiding his failure behind closed doors for 33 years of our marriage. I focused on my degree & career & didnt have that much to do with him most of our marriage but sex wasnt ever a big desire in my life anyway so it didnt matter.

Lol, in my case, sex wasnt necessary as currency but my computer engineering career was.....& his desire to not look like a failure had more meaning to him than having a quality relstionship/marriage