Back in the 1990's I was involved w/ a church and having a tough time. I was in my 20's and frequently spoke my mind. I'm sure I came across as rude and abrasive.

As I was preparing to leave the church and go to another, the pastor's wife made some comments defending me, and was very kind and considerate, and basically told me I reminded her of her husband. She also commented that "those who live by the sword, die by the sword". I took it to mean she thought I had some good qualities, but sometimes my actions caused others to react negatively to me.

I'll always remember that kind, honest conversation.