i was wondering if it was possible not to use phrases like

"I can't cope"

Or

"I'm pathetic"

I just deleted a post...

Which basically said how pathetic and "needy" I am..

(Pathetic and ugly me)

But I wonder, how helpful is it for us to beat ourselves up with some of the same sticks the abusers used

Btw I was a very unloveable child... And really nothing much has changed, just now my body is falling apart