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Originally Posted by QuietMind
First of all, I do apologise for derailing the thread.
Awkwardly Yours, you're right on why I'm hammering T with this - it's because she believes she doesn't "need" training. I disagree with her (because I worry about implicit bias etc), even if yes I do understand where she's coming from in that gay, bi or straight, we all have the same human needs.
I could see another therapist in addition to T. The LGBT org I contacted said their counsellors can work with me on unpacking how abuse / painful life experiences affected my sexual orientation etc. They would refer me to a clinical psychologist if I have clinical symptoms however. I have clinical symptoms, which is why I'm seeing T who is a clinical psychologist, sigh. I'll have to see if I can see 2 Ts at the same time.
Since the thread is on ruptures, I do believe T and me can come to a point where this is resolved. I don't actually think I want to "win" in my demand, but I would be glad if I and her can come to understand where we're both coming from. 
I am aware that I kvetch on this sticking point quite a lot on PC. A lot of people here try conversion therapy, even those with loving upbringings. Have talked to some.
Again, I apologise for the derail. |
No need to apologise at all QM. This thread is going in many different directions but all interesting and important. At one stage I considered conversion therapy too because it was just too difficult to accept being gay.
I didn't have a loving upbringing or accepting parents so I understand why it's difficult for me to accept myself. I think if my parents had of been loving and accepting of course it would have been easier for me but then there is the whole question of society and our environment which judge and make assumptions. I don't think being gay is never easy no matter what your upbringing is.