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Originally Posted by stopdog
What sorts of things do you find it reasonable to ask/demand of a therapist?
I, for example, don't want the therapist to touch me, get close to me, or talk most of the time. I told her about it and the woman agreed. I would not expect a therapist to go to much if any trouble to keep me as a client. I don't think most of them think they need to do so. For me, I would see it as my job to find another therapist rather than their job to go out and get something I thought they needed.
It is coming up on another thread and so as not to keep hijacking it - I thought I would make another thread.
This is not to tell others they are wrong or right - just how do you see it for yourself.
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My T probably gives more than I would ask for, like contact out of session. No physical contact in sessions, but I wouldn't want that, I don't think. However, I find this an interesting question because I think I would ask my T for certain things depending on how I feel. Now, for example, I'm in a bad place and feel vulnerable, so I want my T to demonstrate via conversation that they're with me...they "get" it; I want to feel they feel what I feel (though that may be too much to ask). When I'm not so depressed and dealing with simple day to day living issues, I want my T to give me more practical conversation/suggestions.
These things should go with just being a good T, but lately I've not felt my T was willing to demonstrate s/he "gets" me. It's becoming a problem and may end in a rupture, but sometimes clients might need to ask specifically for more emotional investment from the T.