i haven't had it be asked of new people or thought of in that way of new people..but i have had some littles see certain online friends i have as someone they look up to, though more like a sibling...but my friends aren't able/willing to be that for them. it has weirded me out a bit when one feels that way about a friend of mine cuz i wouldn't really think the friends would be 'good' per se to fulfill that kind of role just knowing what i do of them in general.

it makes me sad because the littles want/need that kind of nurturing, and it's not me they come to for it...i don't know if it has to do with not really knowing me or it's just how it is...but i would be ok with it if an external person would take on that role as if it's what is needed by a little, it can help them heal too..so to deny that would deny their needs and not help them to feel safe.

when one of mine wanted to talk to someone i know online (it was kind of more a co conscious type situation), i made sure to ask my friend first (but they didn't want to talk to that little at that time). i made sure to set boundaries about what not to say (adult stuff) so the potential trigger/harm factor wasn't an issue..that would be something i would worry about when it comes to littles and new people..just not knowing what the person is like..so i had to try to explain to the little a few things at that time.