I"m relating to u big time, you were submissive she was unsubmissive or he sorry memory problem what is it called domination control over u so u don't know whta to do because u are now in control how long did this last how many years did u feel guilty confused I wouldn't think about getting back with her or him yep co-dependent addicted to being bossed bullyed manipulated I was there too/ sorry hugs and kind words u are a very nice person who does deserve better