Sadly, I agree that this is often the case with many therapists in the U.S. Reason? I think that a lot of people go into this profession wounded and totally clueless, meaning they are unprepared or aware of the depth of harm they can do with the words they speaks off-the-cuff or casually. Many of these individuals are good students (in other words, they know how to read and take tests), but they lack the deep understanding, intellectual and commitment to learn and grow emotionally and intellectually in this profession. They don't seem to truly understand how tenuous and important a therapeutic relationship truly is and how much how they act will effect how that relationship develops. They seem too eager to blame or find fault with their clients rather than examining how they have contributed to the difficulties that inevitably develop in such a close and emotional relationship.

I hope that you, the OP, are able to talk openly with your T about how much her comment has hurt you and how it has stayed with you over time--when a comment stays with us for a while and we turn it over and over in our head trying to make sense of it, it means that something traumatic happened and has effected us in a negative way. Good luck!