Reminding you of someone you know/love/had problems with is a good thing! Not the same as her acting/responding like your mother. The reminding is your perception and may or may not say/do what you mother would/would not say/do.

The only way you can get a clear view of your mother separate from you is to have a "third person" (your T) in there so you can "see" better what your mother said/did with you. Your T is a stand-in, sometimes for you and sometimes for your perception of others. What is neat is the two people with the third "mirror" resolve into three people for you and you get the trick of having an inside mirror to bounce things off of.

Wanting mothering is not a bad thing, everyone does, including therapists. But we want it more if we didn't have it very good when we were younger. But that gets resolved to as our therapist helps us and we gain that inside self to help us instead of the therapist. The wanting her/not wanting her won't stay like that so don't "panic" with the feeling of it. It's just part of the process. Think of therapy as a carnival "fun house" :-) with all the warped mirrors and scary "things" jumping out, the darkness, etc. It's not "real" until the end when you come out the other side.

{{{Echoes}}}