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Originally Posted by cielpur
I'm 46 years old, and still find myself displaying family/friend scapegoat patterns as an adult and it irritates me, because I can't unlearn these dysfunctional coping skills no matter how much therapy I do.
I hope some of you can relate and can share your insight if you successfully broke out of your scapegoat pattern and were able to rebrand yourself to the world as a happy, healthy person.
I found this quote about scapegoats online:
"The scapegoat doesn't get picked randomly or by accident. Usually, they are either sensitive, unhappy, vulnerable, ill, the outspoken child or family whistle blower. The scapegoat is the child who refuses to look content or to stay silent in the unbearable atmosphere created in their family home."
This post is a vent but I'm open to people sharing their insight from their own battle with being the family scapegoat.
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I'm still the family scapegoat. When I was last in the hospital in April, my mom chastised me for upsetting a sibling who has a short fuse. And made me promise I'd never do it again. That was her/the priority over all the garbage I've been wading through.
But I'm lonely so I keep going back to them. I spent half my adult life in NYC just to get away from them lol. It wasn't/isnt easy.
ETA There's just so much more but I'd need a lot of time to even summarize it. Anyway, I think we scapegoats are the ones who eventually need therapists and meds because the family never really changes.