I was in a relationship in my mid twenties where the guy basically only wanted to see me once a week. It lasted about four years. After two years, he did start taking me out for nice dinners at expensive restaurants. We'ld go out for a nice evening then back to my place to make love. Then he'ld leave. (He wouldn't even stay the night.) I was crazy about him.

But I was always feeling bad that things weren't going anywhere toward us becoming a real couple. Ultimately, I ended it when I moved out of the state. Two years later, he wanted me to come back and live with him . . . and possibly marry him. I was astonished. How I had hoped for those words when we were seeing each other. Then, two years after I left him, he decided he wanted what I had wanted. I couldn't believe he had finally come to value me that much.

Well, it was too late. I no longer loved him.

It's very hard to be involved with a man who doesn't want the degree of closeness that you want. For me, it was four years of heartbreak. Your guy is only interested in having you on his terms. And he doesn't even take you out for nice dinners that he pays for. Unfortunately, he probably won't change.

It is very hard to get into a relationship, hoping to be loved, then finding that you don't feel loved. It's one of the hardest things there is.

The guy I was with used to very calmly agree to break-up. Then he would wait about 5 weeks and show up at my door. And I would keep taking him back. This happened over and over. I would advise that, next time you break up, don't go running back. Sit back annd wait. It might take a month, but he would probably end up calling or showing up. Then you'ld have a little more leverage.