Many people are under the misconception that your FOOIS the only one, for many people there FOO is toxic and bad for your mental & sometimes pyhsical health,many fail to see your "family" does not have to be your FOO, they are supposed to love you unconditionally and support you, many don't.

So a wise healthy person says they gave me my genetic origin ! But those that accept you and love you without strings attached are your real family, those are the people you align yourself to , those that think that "blood is thicker than water" have never really had good water, the Mother that adopted me loved me more and gave me more emotionaly than my FOO ever did on its best day.

Knowing when to say enough is too much , is a very very hard thing for people to do, and many are repeatedly dragged down and back in to unhealthy relationships for years and in some cases their entire life, this is unhealthy .

The age old question of "is it nature or nurture" for many people it is nurture or lack of it, it profoundly affects everything from your mental health to the job you do and the partner you choose as a spouse, cutting your loses and finding a good therapist can reverse the effect a toxic family has and may very well be the life or death difference. Learn who makes you whole and healthy and wants the best for you, those are your true family, thank the people that contributed genetic material to create your life and move on , also remember if you don't love yourself nowone else will either in most cases .