Because I posted about it? Then apparently you, too are put out by it. As is Shy Introvert. As is her friend. So what exactly is your point?

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What exactly qualifies you to decide what is or isn't offensive and\or racist?

What qualifies you to decide? Or the therapist? Or Shy Introvert.

One thing has come up over and over in this thread: we know virtually no facts. Yet labeling someone racist is so big these days that there's a rush to judgment. And now you're sitting in judgment even on those who say, "Wait a minute, we don't know enough to sit in judgment on this man."

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If a minority feels that someone is acting towards them in a racist\bigoted\bias\etc. manner who are you to tell them they are not entitled to their feelings?

As stated--facts and feelings are not the same. She can have all the feelings she wants. I can have all the feelings I want about you. Does that make you who I 'feel' you are?

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This goes back to the quote from Jane Elliott. You should read her work! Open your mind to the experiences of other people who less entitled and privileged than you. Learn to grow as a person!

This is where you have crossed a line into personal judgment and insult, not to mention assumptions. I have read her work and I'm not impressed.

You are now sitting in judgment as to whether I have an 'open mind.' Why? Because I don't share your opinion that 'cultural differences' implies 'racism.' Is it possible that someone could feel differently than you on a given subject, and yet be a decent and good person, an intelligent, thoughtful, and yes, even open-minded person?

You have made a massive assumption about WHO I am--I don't agree with you and therefore I must be more entitled and privileged? Do you know what race I am? Am I white? Am I Hispanic? Asian--and if I'm Asian, am I Vietnamese, Chinese, Korean, Hmong, Laotian? Am I African American? I could be black, but Nigerian, Kenyan, or Somali. Native American? Inuit? It sounds as if you've made assumptions about my race based on your beliefs about people of various races.

Do you know what country I live in? Do you know what part of the country I live in? Do you know my economic situation? Or what kind of a house or neighborhood I live in? You must, if you feel you can speak with any authority to how many people are more or less privileged and/or 'entitled' than I am. Since you know all about me, why don't you tell me about my neighborhood? Lily white? I've never met any po' folk? Never even met a black person?

I am amazed that you can, apparently with a straight face, sit in judgment on another person like this, make such assumptions about who they are, and actually feel you know enough to tell a stranger on the internet to 'grow as a person.'

There is discussion on this thread WHILE ACKNOWLEDGING WE DO NOT KNOW VERY MANY FACTS AT ALL of starting legal procedures against a man, over two stinking words: cultural differences.

I think this is very dangerous territory--McCarthyism, witch hunts.


Here's a better idea: let's ALL grow as people and quit being butt hurt, as someone else said, over two words that do NOT mean 'I dislike other races,' not even remotely. If he did a lousy job, file a professional complaint about his work. If you don't like him as a person, find a different contractor, and don't recommend him to anyone. Problem solved.

Let's all put on our big boy and big girl pants and quit seeing hatred around every corner. Most people are just trying to get on with their lives and do the right thing by others, and God forbid we should all take legal action every time they don't use exactly the right words that make us FEEL good.