Hey everyone. Thanks for this forum. I've been appreciating reading your stories since my husband told me he's done with our marriage on Wed night. It is now Sat and I'm still reeling from the shock and am totally devastated.

I'm 62, he's 69, been married 15 years. When we married, I thought I'd finally found the man I was going to grow old (older) with. The story is long and I don't feel up to recounting all of it right now. I'll just explain that we have two houses in two different states. He decided he didn't like the state where I reside with my aged horse (can't move him all around any more) and has spent most of his time the last two years at the other house.

He would visit and things seemed fine. We talked every day on the phone or Skype for at least an hour. Last Wed, he was at the airport there to catch a flight here when Southwest Airlines had the cancellation of many flights due to nation-wide computer problems. He called and told me he would call me when he got back to the house and let me know the new flight time for the next morning. An hour later, he arrived back home, called me and bluntly said he wasn't coming the next day or ever. That he couldn't take any more and that "If you love me, you'll let me go."

I was stunned and could only stammer out that I didn't understand. He said he couldn't keep going back and forth. I said I would find a babysitter for the old horse and be the one to go back and forth until the horse went to greener pastures (which I hope is a long time from now, because I love him to death and has always been my anchor and family before I met my husband).

My husband said no. I then said I would somehow get the horse moved there and come live with him full time again like the first 13 years of our marriage. He again said no. He had his life there, my life is here and he didn't want to talk about it any more. He then hung up. Oh, he did say he hadn't found anyone else and had not been unfaithful to me.

I sent an email saying I loved him and always will and could not imagine the hole in my life without him. He answered back the next morning very coldly to say this was not a spur of the moment decision and there would be no discussion. He didn't plan to divorce or change anything financially and that when he dies, I would be his only family member legally.

I have barely slept or eaten since and am totally devastated. I'll post more of the blow by blow of the relationship later to get your ideas on what has gone wrong. I just wanted to introduce myself and thank you for the forum.

Thanks for listening.