I would really appreciate any input here. Any input. If it's something that might generally be consider insulting, it won't be by me, in this thread. Or if I do feel insulted, that would be my problem, except that there are guidelines that PC has established for their community as a whole.

First off, I inserted a request for feedback in another person's thread. Was that out of line, does anybody think? Would it be better to limit those requests to this thread?

These question come from a (current) place of genuine cluelessness. Yes, anxiety, too. I can now tolerate the anxiety and embarassment, but I've got a lot of years of social experience to try to catch up on.

Here's another example -- I asked my daughter a question from this overanxious place this afternoon and she said, frustrated, "I don't care. I accept you as you are."

This is clearly an improvement in our relationship since last year when she wasn't speaking to me, and yet the question is obviously frustrating to her. Perhaps it's the notion that she feels it's me asking her to "clue me in" to things I "should" already know (but don't). Or perhaps she feels that she has tried to allay my anxiety since we renewed our relationship less than a year ago and yet my anxiety remains. OK -- I get that, my problem, my anxiety, take her at her word. Lesson (maybe) learned, stepped on her toes, she's not marching away and I wouldn't have learned if I hadn't asked.

Long way to go, though.