"To me, having an orgasm with someone is -at least potentially - an incredibly vulnerable moment of deep sharing." Wow that is a perfect way to describe it"

Orgasms are very important to me when I masturbate, but not as important when I'm making love. I enjoy the emotional intimacy as much or more than the actual orgasm, so if I don't have an orgasm it's not the end of the world.

Two things for the men reading this:

1. If a woman doesn't have an orgasm when you're making love it doesn't mean that she's cheating on your or doesn't love you or isn't attracted to you. It could just mean that she's tired or nervous or just not in the mood.

2. Please don't ever pressure women to have an orgasm. It was so important to my last BF and he would get mad and disappointed if I didn't have an orgasm. I felt so much pressure that I just couldn't get there and ended up having to fake it to prevent fights! It was a vicious circle.

SOME Men seem to care more about womens' orgasms than the women actually do!