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Old Oct 12, 2016, 01:07 PM
Sarmas Sarmas is offline
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Originally Posted by 1stepatatime View Post
I'm having surgery this Friday ( nothing life threatening). I had my last session yesterday with my therapist. I emailed her ( as always after session.. and she is fine with email) and I asked her if she would miss me. Her response was " I understand the need behind your question and I will tolerate not answering your yes or no question instead I will remain by you by fielding, accepting and feeling the pushing energy".
I understand that my therapist wants me to FEEL the connection that we share and through that I might find the answer but seriously??? I'm about to go under the knife, I won't see her for almost a month, all I wanted to hear is " yes, I will miss you 1step". In relationship we share our feelings with those we are close to. And although this is not your typical relationship it is still a close relationship nonetheless. I don't see why in the world she can't say a simple yes, I will miss you... unless of course she won't miss me.. that, too has gone through my mind. Any thoughts are greatly appreciated.. thanks!!
That doesn't even sound like English. Those are English words together in some form that means nothing. A straight answer with a yes or no would've been so much better.

These are the issues with a therapeutic relationship where our expectations might demand more than what Ts are willing to give. It's all about boundaries and boundaries are different for each T.
Thanks for this!
1stepatatime, Trippin2.0