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Originally Posted by Shy Introvert
I know that not everyone dislikes shy and introverted people apparently, but it does seem like we're often misunderstood by most people. I get the impression that people think that we're "unfriendly", "boring", to "quiet", 'weird", etc....
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This is very true that we introverts can be misunderstood but I will add this caveat. We are mostly misunderstood by those that care little to actually get to know us better, or enough to understand why we act the way we do. Those people, therefore, do not matter, because if they can't invest enough time into finding out who we are they are not worth investing or wasting my energy in caring what they think of me. And yes, this is how I deal with people. If you know me, my reserved and introverted nature won't bother you as much.
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One person on another message board said that they don't want to take the time to get to know a shy person since they could make ten new friends in the time that it'd take to become friends with them. I'm sure that they're not the only person who feels that way sadly.
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This shallow person thinks numbers of friends is a more important metric in life than having quality friends you can know and get close to. Another person that's not worth wasting your energy on being upset or offended by, They have their reward. A great many friends that don't care very much beyond the superficial socializing.
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I get the feeling that extroverts tend to get frustrated with introverts easily, and it's even worse when you're a shy person on top of that with anxiety issues, ugh! I read some stuff on here and read that some extroverts might get offended if an introvert or shy and socially anxious person declines their invites to go out a few times. They take things to personally.
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Do you think you, as an introvert are just a stereotypical personality to be lumped together with all the other introverts out there or do you feel you're a unique personality with introversion as one trait in the many facets of your being? Well I ask because I'd caution against lumping all extroverts into a single group saying that THEY are *this, that or the other thing* as if they are all the same. They aren't. Like you, extroverts come in many forms and have many personalities. Not all are offended or dislike introverts.
Extro/Introversion is just one behavior. in no way should it be something you identify with entirely.
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Some of them also can't seem to understand why introverts don't want to socialize as much as them. Are there any other introverts out there who have experienced this? As for the extroverts out there, what to you think of people who are shy and introverted? Do you like them or not?
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I've known many extroverts and introverts, and yes there are a few that don't understand the need for space, solitude and recharging after socializing or any of the aspects of how introverts are. but those that don't understand I will say likely have never really wanted to understand, nor have they tried to.
some extroverts are drawn to intros. Because sometimes opposites actually do attract and at times this can be a good thing where one personality balances the other. Not always but sometimes this works out.
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I know that my annoying parents have gotten very offended when I would spend time alone in my bedroom whenever they came over. It didn't help that they're very annoying, loud, nosy, rude, etc....
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I think their behavior falls into some of the things I've said already. It's unfortunate, since you're their child that they don't even want to understand it, though.
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So, of course I wouldn't want to be around anyone who stresses me out that much, lol! They never cared about my feelings and why I needed my space. It was always about them, and sadly, that's how I perceive most extroverts to be, that if you don't give them the attention they need, then they end up not liking you for it. It seems that they need constant attention and validation to be happy. Correct me if I'm wrong here.
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Fine line between extroversion and self centered, self important narcissism. There even is a disorder (I think histrionic) that will be the type of person that really needs a lot of attention and to be the center of the focus all the time. But extroversion does not equal self-centeredness. Really it only describes a person that gains energy, fulfillment and everything from without, whereas an introvert internally does so. (simplistic descriptions but I'm sorry in a nutshell that's all it is) coupled with many other aspects of personality, remember there are all kinds of personalities and they don't all fit into two groups.