When I first started seeing my pdoc, I was a real mess. He told me that he wanted me to attend the AA meeting that he attends (I attended AA for many years and then gradually found other things to occupy my time. I did find AA very helpful and I still use the things I learned there and he knew that). I was sort of flattered, sort of taken aback (thinking Boundaries!). I did feel cared for and it was a good thing for me. I did wonder at the time how many other people in the room were his patients. One thing that happened that really struck me was he talked about a former patient of his who had just committed suicide. He cried talking about it. And that was helpful for me in dealing with those sort of intentions. It kind of wrecked the "no one will care" thought. So maybe having t in the group will yield something really helpful.