You sound like you're feeling vindictive. Can't say as I blame you, but it would be in your best interest to not sound or act that way to your husband. It would only serve to drive him away even further. That's not what you want if you are defending your marriage and your relationship with him. It gives him something to rationalize his behavior with. What you need to do is calm down and be as sweet and thoughtful as you can. If there is anything for him to feel guilty about, that is sure to do it! He'll feel bad about what he's done and will certainly be more receptive to making his relationship with you work.