My husband and I don't have children by choice. We had both decided this for a variety of reasons before we met and had ended relationships with people that decided they wanted kids.

I'm 45, so like Bea Tiscuit, I probably couldn't have a biological child even if I wanted to by now. In my case, there are no regrets. I don't think either of us is up to the toll that raising a child takes on you, and after all that work there are no guarantees. Remember, that it's not just a cute baby you are getting, you have to be prepared for all the ups and downs throughout the years and often over the age of 18. I have a friend whose son is 20, and he has really gone off the rails in the last few years (an arrest, car accident and coma from drinking too much alcohol). So, she is dealing with a lot of problems due to his behavior.

I don't know if you could relate, since it sounds like you've always wanted children, but in my case I never really felt a pull to be a mother.

It sounds like you need to be patient and wait until your situation is more stable, rather than jumping into motherhood just because you feel something missing in life. It's better to work on other ways to deal with that void you are feeling rather than having a child that is essentially born with a job.