Thank you, Fharraige, apfel, and BastetsMuse!
Your posts are so empowering for me! Thank you thank you. I printed them out to show my boyfriend, who just "doesn't get it." He's a great boyfriend except for this issue, which, every time we see a video, we get into a discussion which makes me very uncomfortable. Yesterday we did, and he just could not grasp that the best thing for us to do is choose a video TOGETHER. He wanted to go to the video store, choose a movie himself, and hope I like it! We went on and on and he still didn't get my concept. But today he decided to "just see one of the videos you have." Well, okay, but maybe if he reads your comments he'll get it finally.