I'm sorry -- I didn't communicate well. It was with an emotional sense of openness or something, rather than my (unfortunately usual) anxiety and even fear of my daughter and her (several years ago) reactions to me.

You wrote from a perspective that never occurred to me and may very well be somewhat closer to my daughter's. Anything positive like that I might very well have dismissed, due to my own (remaining for the moment) issues.

It helps me take a chance and be more open to that with her. May not be like her at all but if my anxiety is making a wall between us now then your perspective provides me with support to try to let down my guard some. I know/expect that my guard can itself be off-putting for my daughter and our relationship. But it's kind of been stuck there -- I can freeze it out but that's not what she wants (or I want) either.

Many thanks for sharing your perspective. Like with the example of how Atypical saw things, which helped me see though her eyes, it helps give me something other than my own perspective, which is limited by fear and lack of experience in seeing anybody's perspective other than my own (fearful) one.

So, I was also overwhelmed with gratitude. My usual fearful attitude was overwhelmed. Maybe a new attitude will develop and I can just say again, thanks.