Just making a statement based on numerous threads you have made over time.

You both push each other's buttons. He stresses about money and yet your not working, unless I missed something.

You both say " shut up" to each other. Why is one considered abuse but not the other ?

Your bit about leaving him but you can't financially ? Then make that a priority , earning money so you can get out and you can go support yourself and he won't be there to make remarks about xyz.

I hope you're mental health center is helpful for you.