I have been masturbating since I was about 7 years old and I didn't know what it was at the time. As a result I tend to do it fully clothed. I don't touch my body, just my clothes. It tends to work if I have a sexy thought. But sometimes I have to concentrate on that thought. I do take medication which probably makes it more difficult to orgasm.

It seems that because I have always masturbated successfully and the pressure of being aroused fully when with another person has led to me never getting that aroused when with a partner. I always find masturbation has no expectations as you are on your own and penetration is not going to happen. I have vaginismus so penetrative sex can be a turn off for me. Therefore relationships really are not for me. I may be attracted to people but I know I'm not going to enjoy intercourse, only masturbation, so I stay away now.