It isn't important to me. I have never orgasmed during penetrative sex, and I never will. Some men like to hear you enjoying yourself and take it personally if you don't. It is silly in my case as it just won't happen. The last guy I was involved with didn't like my lack of noise. I can only achieve orgasm through masturbation, and I think I am too used to that now. I do prefer clitoral stimulation to intercourse, I imagine because that's what I do to masturbate. Men prefer penetration. But there's no way I could ever really enjoy that. I have vaginismus so the whole thing can be an ordeal. I have enjoyed sex but certainly would never orgasm through it. Maybe I'm not the best person to ask as I suffer from vaginismus, but I know it isn't important to me. I like kissing and touching, and being emotionally intimate, not physically intimate. If I can talk to a guy for hours that is a good thing. I like being cuddled in bed and falling asleep in a man's arms. I like feeling protected. Orgasms are something I can't achieve during sex and there are other ways of being intimate so it isn't important to me. But as I say I am not the best person to ask.