Thanks for the reply, Lucy... As much as I hate to say it, I don't think raising my grandchildren is an option for me... it's really all I can do to stay out of the hospital watching them 3 or 4 days a week... the stress is really killing me. The whole situation is a mess with no satisfactory solution short of my daughter getting herself together. As I write this I'm hoping that she gets here to pick them up early, I'm a hair's breadth away from going to the ER...