DaveyJones and shattered sanity, thank you for your comments. Shattered, family is a big trigger for me, too! Not fire, as I have not experienced fire as an enemy. A man I was married to did, though. DaveyJones, your experience looking after your grandkids is why I never had kids of my own. I love kids, and was a school teacher but guess what -- at the end of the day they all went home! 24 hours a day of kids is not something I could ever do. For one thing, I need a ton of sleep, and would malfunction of the baby/kids would wake me up at night.