I think my biggest fear about women resource centers is the rules and confinements. I spent a lot of my youth in facilities like this...and I most definitely don't want to be treated as though I was in the wrong. My friend spent four months at the local women's resource center and said she had to earn passes to be let out of the building, the are locked in by gates. I can't go back to that.

I think what I need to do is figure out a way to get him out of my home legally and have a judge say he's not allowed to disturb me. He follows laws, I've never seen him break any.
Him coming for me afterward wouldn't concern me, because he's a puss like that. But my strongest fear is him trying to fight for custody of our children.....this would devastate me. This is of course one of his intimidation threats...if I was to ever leave him.

I need to get my stuff together and be as strong as I know I'm capable of being. The funny thing is I've seen this all before with my mother and the many men in her life....I never wanted to end up like her....in a way I have.