(((Seeker)))) I understand your hurt for yourself and your Mom. However, some people just cannot step outside themselves and do what they should do. When my Mom was dying of cancer, friends of mine paid to fly my brother and young nephew into town and put them in a hotel. Another friend let them use her truck. They were in town a week. If they spent 2-3 hours a day with my Mom that was a lot - my brother went to see his friends. I came to realize then that my brother just could not handle it - my Mom was always very strong and never sick and he just could not deal with it - plus I think he had some guilt issues because my sister-in-law decided she did not like us and kept my young nephew from seeing his grandmother (her only grandchild) and me for many years and my brother did nothing. My young nephew did far better when he was with my Mom - he would just sit and hold her hand. When my Mom passed away, my brother at first said he could not come to her service because of his job (after I had set it up for a Friday evening.) Then when the same friends guaranteed him that they would get him home even if they had to charter a flight, he admitted that he just could not handle it. I did not understand and still really don't - my Mom brought us up to do what we have to do even if it was tough. Your sister will have to live with her choices down the road and even though it will be very tough for you - you will be able to look at yourself and say that you did everything that you could do and that you took care of your Mom in the absolute best way possible - by having her home and by being with her. Take care Seeker and you and your Mom will be in my thoughts and prayers.