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Supportive therapy versus explorative. Do they have to be separate? .... So.... now that I'm finding I want supportive therapy, is that too much or is it something different than the course we set out on and will it make her not want to work with me. Or was I confused about supportive/explorative and they are not exclusive but are both part of the process?
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My T combines exporatory therapy with supportive therapy, so it is possible. We go very deep, but sometimes I just need his support, and he can give it. He is very flexible that way. It may be that some therapists prefer to do only one or the other at a time with a client. I don't know. I guess you would have to ask your T and see if she can accommodate. I know that asking that question can be scary too. (((hugs)))
In what way would you like your T to support you that she isn't currently doing? It might help her a lot to help you if you know the answer to that question. My T has said several times that I need to tell him what I need from him. He can't always just intuitively know. That is so hard for me to tell him my needs, but I'm getting better at it.
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If I fall apart in there... she will 'see' me. If she sees me she'll be disgusted, repulsed. She could reject me, leave me.
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((((hugs)))) I always thought that Ts liked it when their clients fell apart, showed emotion, etc. It shows they are getting somewhere, doing hard work together, reaching the core, getting past the person's defenses, etc. I think it is harder for Ts to work with someone who won't show any emotion or delve beneath the surface. So maybe your T would actually be thrilled and consider it progress if you "fell apart" with her.
ECHOES, I hope you can talk about these very important issues with your T and get some reassurance. It is so important to feel secure.
