I have always related to my father and brother through activities. Like having a book read to you, playing tennis, chess and cards, cutting wood, going to U-pick farms, hunting, fishing, etc. So when men would ask things like would you like to come see my room? Etc. I wouldn't even look at them or speak to them. These things would happen when I served on active duty in the military. They were people I served with and over time, I would notice that the kind of people who approach sex this way tend to have multiple partners. Not the safest people to be with. I would tend to get attracted by the way of interaction--pool, bowling, poker, camping, hiking, etc. plus of course talking and looking into their eyes, hearing their voice. Then, you just can't help but smile, grab their hand, look into their eyes and that will lead to things in a natural way if they are attracted also. Though I have also experienced the feeling of wondering why they didn't make a move (male friends--ones where we enjoyed activities together like jogging, having lunch, etc.) It is hard to predict when things happen.
So instead of the internet, maybe join any activity that has a high percentage of men? (martial arts, jobs with men, chess clubs, skydiving) I think if you find an environment where you can interact with normal men in a more natural way--this would not happen as much.