I have to deal with my somewhat toxic aging parent. I feel a sense of duty to help him for a variety of reasons, mostly my contact with him is over the phone and sending regular "care" boxes to him. This is just for me personally, but he suffered a lot in his own life and I just kinda look at him as damaged... both my parents were but they did the best they could. Not suggesting thats how anyone else should feel, but its just how I feel.