Do you usually see results when you set boundaries with others? I'm someone who often has difficulties setting boundaries when people in my life do things that I'm not okay with. For instance, flaking out repeatedly and just being inconsiderate in general, then expecting everything to be just fine.

I assertively--but not aggressively--told someone close to me to not lead me on with plans if they are just going to break them last minute. It might not sound like a big deal for me to have said this, but I'm someone who often lets things go. I always feel like I'm nagging someone by confronting them.

Also, I get afraid that I'll push people away if I confront people on things like this that bother me, which is why I let things go a lot. I start doubting my own thoughts and feel maybe I'm being "too sensitive," but I'm starting to realize that's not the case, and I can benefit from being more assertive. I am hoping that others actually will take what I say seriously and maybe work on making a change when I do set boundaries. What's your experience with this? Do you find that people actually try to make changes to improve the relationship when you speak up?