@The O.P, sorry to hear that. Maybe you're meeting all the wrong men. Also, are you meeting them at bars, clubs, or even online? Those are some of the worst places to meet men I heard.

Anyways, I really think that this book by Sherry Argov will help you. It's called "Why Men Love *****es". It's a tongue in cheek title meaning:

B-Babe

I-In

T-Total

C-Control

H-of Herself

It's very insightful and hilarious! Men don't think like women. Doing certain things will only make them think that you aren't relationship material such as responding to their texts, emails, and calls right away. Men like the chase.

A lot of men tend to test women to see how "high" they'll jump and how far they can push you. And they will walk all over you if you let them. Also, appearance matters, but you'll always attract the wrong men if you show to much skin at first. Not saying that you do of course, that's just what the book says.

If you don't return a guy's texts, calls, or emails right away and wait a few days, he'll probably get back to YOU to see why you aren't responding to him like most women. They like the chase and women who are independent and not desperate for a relationship or marriage. Not that you are. Just read the book and you'll see what I mean.

Oh, and it sounds like that guy isn't ready for anything serious yet at all. If that's what you want, don't waste your time on him. You can do better than that. Don't settle. Look for better friends. Try meetup.com.