I am afraid of sex too, I can't enjoy it really. I don't know what made me afraid of it. I wouldn't even use tampons at school. I am afraid it will be painful I think. I tense up when anything enters my vagina. I did have a really painful smear test when I was a virgin which didn't help.

I won't get smear tests now. I have hardly had sex in 10 years. As a result I'm the last person to ask about dating. I'm just letting you know you're not the only one who isn't very experienced compared to others. I have thought about trying sex with a woman but it doesn't really appeal to me. But just saying, you're not alone in your fear of sex.