my current boyfriend used to do that all the time. i would ask him to go and volunteer at the humane society with me for just a few hours but he didnt want to. didnt care about any of the stuff im interested in. and im studying to be a vet....so if he doesnt care about animals.....thats kinda my whole life.

well i told him that i didnt want him anymore because the emotional connection was gone. i take an interest in sports, fantasy football and video games but he cant get interested in volunteering a few hours a week?

he has been trying and he has been making an effort to ask me about my day, about the shelter, ask me how im doing which he never did before.

so you have to be upfront. he might not even know what hes doing wrong. when i told jason, my boyfriend, what he was doing he was dumbfounded. he was like "i didnt know you wanted me to do all that?!". you cant expect a change overnight though. especially if hes going into the military. but if youre upfront with him he might listen. and if he doesnt then i think you have your answer already. if he really does love you he should want to try. get what im saying?