Was wondering where you were Lady. I am sorry it is a tough time for you. You know, i do not know about your kids, or if I did I forgot. I like that you can be attentive and present with your daughter. That is a gift. One thing I wanted to say is don't anticipate that you will be in a lot of pain. That makes it self-fullfilling. Also tell the doc your fear of pain and get on a good medication schedule and take as directed to keep the pain at bay. It gets dark early and that makes us cave woman even more doesn't it? good luck Lady.