You know. Apparently this therapist has been working for you as you have attested to that as of late, but you do seem to have a tendency to pick apart every single thing she does and then consider playing games as tests or defiance of her. You get hyperfocused on things like a handshake. Does that really negate the other work you do? If so, the problem is probably more than the handshake. If not, can you possibly consider just accepting that your T does apparently do fairly good work with you despite that she isn't absolutely everything you wish for? Just seems like you sometimes create issues where there just don't really need to be any.