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Originally Posted by SarahSweden
Thanks. Yes, I agree "all" clients know that therapy is partly about using techniques but at the same time I´ve had a T I felt cared about me in a more genuine way and such caring you feel is not just about technique. That T was a lot more spontaneous in her way of talking to and meet with me, she could easily give me a compliment and such.
I agree it´s possible to just "act out" and ignore everything that I think of as her using techniques but for me, I´d felt very scattered if I was to use such a way of handling things.
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And didn't that therapist leave you? This woman has stuck with you, changed her normal behavior for you, and even renewed your time together for a few more months, right? To me that says caring. Actions speak louder than words and an empathic face.
Because people seem caring does not mean they are, and because they don't seem caring does not mean they are not. In high school, the popular teachers were the ones who seemed to care and the unpopular ones the ones who seemed remote and crusty. But you know what - generally speaking the remote, crusty ones were the ones that did more extra work with students, wrote great references for college, alerted their students to more prize and scholarship opportunities, etc. The more popular teachers did some of this, but never to the degree the unpopular ones did.
Have you considered why you seem to have so many issues with this woman and why you seem intent on being disappointed in her?