Thanks. Yes, she left me and I was part of it and that was quite a mess but the thing is that I still feel more for my former T than I do for my current one. Even if I think my former T did several things wrong when ending therapy with me, I still remember her warmth and caring before our disputes ended up in a termination.
As I´m within public health care I don´t see extending therapy has anything to do with caring. T:s within public health care are very controlled by the DSM and diagnoses and based on that, they either choose to end or extend therapy.
I think I have several issues with my T as I was assigned to her, there was no choice to make as she´s the only one at the clinic I´m at and switching clinics would imply risking not getting another chance for therapy or being stuck waiting many months or even more than a year to see another T.
My impression is she doesn´t have the time or interest in her clients in general as she works with many more clients than a private T does and the clients are assigned to her. That is, she works with clients she doesn´t choose herself and as she has to get paid she can´t just say "no" because she doesn´t like a client.
A private T has generally speaking a lot more freedom to choose between clients and to choose the ones he or she feels a bit for.
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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
And didn't that therapist leave you? This woman has stuck with you, changed her normal behavior for you, and even renewed your time together for a few more months, right? To me that says caring. Actions speak louder than words and an empathic face.
Because people seem caring does not mean they are, and because they don't seem caring does not mean they are not. In high school, the popular teachers were the ones who seemed to care and the unpopular ones the ones who seemed remote and crusty. But you know what - generally speaking the remote, crusty ones were the ones that did more extra work with students, wrote great references for college, alerted their students to more prize and scholarship opportunities, etc. The more popular teachers did some of this, but never to the degree the unpopular ones did.
Have you considered why you seem to have so many issues with this woman and why you seem intent on being disappointed in her?
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