I recently found out my 12 year old son has been masturbating, which I know is normal for this age. However, he admitted he likes to "feel around" his **** opening because as he says, it feels good. He denies sticking anything into the rectum, including his fingers. My concern is that he is going to injure himself, while his father is convinced that this means our son is gay (WTF?) and even went on to say he wasn't loving gay kid (don't worry - he's on his way out)

I sat my son down, asking him if he had been touched by anyone, as I know this could be a red flag for sexual abuse, but he denied that too, just saying he does it "just because". We did have an issue a few months back with him watching porn on his phone, so I have a parental blocker in place now, but there's no telling what he saw in the videos he watched. From what he said, his friends talk about watching it, so he thought he would too.

Does any of this seem normal for a 12 year old boy? I am concerned this could be a result of deeper issue, instead of just normal teenage puberty behavior and it's freaking me out.

Thanks!