Thanks. I realise I canīt matter to her as she matters or mattered to me but a handshake or another action should be grounded in some kind of genuine feeling for another human.
I understand your perspective and for me the handshake isnīt that valuable as I feel the way I do, that part of doing such a thing for me is therapy technique. In such a case itīs more or less as bad as if she just continued acting indifferent at the end of our sessions.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Myrto
Sarah, I think you want your therapist to feel that the handshake is as special to her as it is to you. But I mean, that's just not possible. Therapists do not care for us as much as we the clients care for them. I asked my therapist to start shaking my hand a couple months ago. Why? I wanted to touch her and get touched. She agreed. Now we shake hands at the beginning and at the end. It feels great. Do I think it's a super special moment for her when she shakes my hand? Well of course not. But she agreed to shake my hand because she thought it would be therapeutic. Even if it's just a technique to her, so what? I get to shake hands with her, that's all that matters. Perhaps you could see it that way? You get to shake your T's hand. Isn't that nice? And she agreed to shake yours. And that's nice too. But no, it's not super meaningful to her, no. So what?
|